Satisfying a woman or making her want some more is some work. Follow these tips to know how to stimulate her most sensitive sensual areas.
One of women’s biggest complaints? Men zero right in on the goods and spend little or no time exploring other parts of their bodies. Which is a shame, because there are plenty of other hot spots you can touch, tickle, and lick to increase her pleasure and yours. Consider this your treasure map.
A woman’s brain shuts down for orgasm. Commence the shutdown sequence by holding her head in your lap and massaging the area above her eyebrows with your thumbs. “People carry a lot of tension in the face, and this helps them release and become more receptive to arousal,” says David Givens, Ph.D., author of Love Signals. Look for her lips to part, he says: “When a person is aroused, he or she will relax the muscles that keep the jaw shut.”
These are portals to two forms of arousal: physical (reflexogenic) and mental (psychogenic), says Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., a sex researcher at Indiana University. Touch or massage the rim of her ear between your thumb and forefinger while cradling the back of her head with your fingers. (Ignore the insensitive earlobe.) As she responds, graze the ridge of her outer ear with the tip of your nose, says Anne Hooper, coauthor of 269 Amazing S3x Tips and Tricks for Men. “Just hearing you breathe will turn her on,” she says.
Brush your lips between her throat and chin, says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., founder of mypleasure.com. “The skin is thinner where the body flexes. The nerves and blood vessels are closer to the surface—that’s why it’s also a perfume point.” You’ll engage sensory receptors and trigger an emotional response. “It feels very intimate to let a person that close,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., a sex researcher with the Kinsey Institute, in Indiana.
Kissing is your entrance exam for the rest of her body. “It tells her that you understand how to be subtle, no matter where you are on her body,” says Hooper. You’re also giving her a hormonal hors d’oeuvre, flooding her hypothalamus (the brain’s arousal center) with pheromone-laden smells and tastes. Softly lick her upper lip or tug it gently between your lips. Deep red lips indicate arousal.